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Here are some guidelines to help your children overcome school avoidance:
Talk with your child about the reasons: Be sympathetic, supportive, and understand why he or she is upset. Try to resolve any stressful situations the two of you identify as causing his worries.1
Acknowledge that you understand your child's concerns, but insist on going to school: Explain that he or she is in good health and his or her physical symptoms are probably due to concerns of other things – perhaps about grades, homework, relationships with teachers, anxieties over social pressure or legitimate fears of violence at school. Let your child know that school attendance is required by law.1
Alert the school staff about your child’s problem: including his or her teacher, the school counselor, and the school nurse.1
A bully problem: If the problem is a bully or an unreasonable teacher, talk to the teacher or principal. He or she may be able to make changes to lessen the pressure on your child. Be an advocate for your child. 2
Activities outside school: Help your child develop independence by encouraging activities, such as clubs or sports, that include other children outside the home. The development of friendships and positive interests can be of great help in decreasing a child's anxieties and fears. 2
Playdates: Invite a school friend at home or to an outdoor activity, as it will facilitate school acceptance and link it to fun3.
Lama Abiad
MD, Pediatrics
