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Shyness is not a big issue and is most likely a temporary behavior. Being shy isn't a bad thing in itself — but shyness should not keep your child from being engaged in social interactions and enjoying themselves. Below are some easy strategies you can use, to help your child overcome shyness:2
Engaging in activities: Support your child to join some activities that he's interested in — whether it's attending a class or being part of a sports team. He may feel nervous at first — that's perfectly normal.1
Work on social skills: Give your child chances to practice his social skills whenever you can. In the store, encourage him to pay the cashier. At dinner, have them order his own meal. Invite a friend over to play so your child can interact with their peers.2
Help them Build confidence. Remind him of a time when he was in new situations and got through it. When going to a birthday party, for example, bring up another party you went to and remind them how much fun he had with the other children.2
Offer feedback. Praise or reward your little one for small actions, like saying “hi” or waving. If they freeze up in front of someone, talk about it. Discuss things he can try next time.2
Express empathy. Tell your child that you can see they're feeling shy, and that you feel that way too sometimes. Share stories about times when you overcame your own shyness.2
Dr. Irina Nehme
Pediatrician
