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Being able to speak up requires confidence and the right words to say. However shy kids may find it extra hard.
It is important to know that not all shy kids are shy in the same way. Some kids are anxious about speaking up when they don’t know what the response will be. Some don’t like to talk in front of other people. Others just need time to get comfortable with new people and new situations. And still others are just content being quiet observers.
In order to help your child speak up, below are some advice to follow:
- Encourage your child to order when you’re eating out.
- Share personal stories of times you spoke up for yourself even when you were feeling shy or anxious.
- Invite your child to share opinions and help in making decisions.
- Some shy kids know what they should ask for, but they have trouble saying it when the time comes. In this case, you can rehearse sample questions with your child.
- Inform your child’s teachersabout what you’ll be doing to help your child speak up so she can help him in school as well.
- Recognize and celebrate achievements, even if they seem small. Taking steps like raising their hand in class or answering questions can be a lot for shy kids.
Keep in mind that ongoing encouragement will help your child continue to take risks and speak out.1
Dr. Lydia Serhal
Pediatric Gastroenterologist, Hepatologist, and Allergologist
